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Hi, I'm Michelle
I’m a certified divorce coach, but more importantly I’ve been where you are. When my marriage ended, I was suddenly alone with 3 young sons. Balancing their needs while trying to function day to day, felt overwhelming. I'd lay awake at night wondering what my future looked like. In time and with support from people who cared, I found my strength and rebuilt our life. My own journey has inspired me to guide others, who are facing one of life’s hardest transitions, in a safe and compassionate space.
My story
My own divorce lasted 3 years and was the toughest experience of my life. Once I was out the other side, I said to myself “if I can survive that, I can survive anything!”. My journey has been life changing, career changing and most of all, liberating.
Married for 20 years, I lived in a beautiful village, in a home I loved, surrounded by a big network of amazing friends and family (I still have those). My husband and I moved back to the village I grew up in and life was perfect, until it wasn’t.
For 15 years, my marriage was very happy. Sadly, the last 5 years became difficult when my husband started drinking to cope with the stress of his job. Gradually, as his drinking became excessive (to the point of life-threatening), the arguments between us became a regular occurrence and life in our house was far from peaceful. With 3 young sons, I didn’t want my boys growing up thinking this was normal behaviour. After a catalogue of unlawful events unfolded in the final year of our marriage, I reached breaking point and in the first week of January 2015, I filed for divorce.
Divorce wasn’t something I expected to be faced with, I now hear that line every day. Despite being the one who instigated the divorce, it took me 3 years to mentally process and come to terms with separating and losing my husband and my family unit, not to mention my home and life as I knew it. It was devastating, scary and overwhelming. The rollercoaster of emotions is truly immense.
If only divorce coaches had been around 10 years ago, I certainly believe my recovery would have been much quicker. I learned the hard way, and what came as instinct, like exercising, getting out in nature, going out with friends, taking up new activities, I didn't follow any kind of structure, so remained stuck for longer than I should have.
But you don’t have to navigate this alone – I’m here to help. Using proven techniques and strategies, together we can fast track your recovery. Whether that's helping build your confidence, gaining clarity to assist with important decision making, understanding the legal process, or throwing paint on the blank canvas that is your new life (no matter how hard that is to envisage), I will hold your hand through it all – you’ve absolutely got this!
